Letter #2

Dear John, 

This one is for you. You may not know who I am but I am just one person who is part of a small tribe of people that have supported and loved the mother of your child. We are the ones who have tried to help her keep herself together while you bailed on her. Introducing who I am is not necessary. I am besides the point. The real point here is you are a user, abuser and a trash human being.


Let me get straight to the point(s)
1. You are not the victim-please stop trying to play the victim. You are the abuser. 
2. You flat out told the mother of your child that you did not want your own daughter to have your last name. 
3. You did not want to be listed as her father on the birth certificate. Damn well knowing that was your daughter.
3. You did not want her to hold your last name or sign the birth certificate because you did not want to pay any child support. According to you, in your own words you were "too poor".
4. You were not there for the birth of your daughter. 
5. At 26 and a half weeks the mother of your child was induced to give labor. You have admitted that you ignored all calls/texts regarding the birth of your daughter. 
6. You never met your daughter, made zero attempts to do so. Never showed up to the hospital! You did call the mother of your child the next day (after your daughter had already passed away!)
7.  You did not plan or try to plan your own daughter's funeral. You left that difficult and daunting task to be completed by her mother.
8. Your daughter was cremated without your presence. You choose to not be there for her funeral or to assist in her cremation in anyway, shape or form.
9. AFTER the cremation had occurred and time had passed you decided to show up in the picture and manipulate the mother of your child with all your "regrets" and proclaiming how much you loved your daughter and that you wanted to be apart of her life. You said this AFTER she was born, passed away and cremated. Just to try to keep a foot in door for your personal gain.  
10. You never offered or tried to help the mother of your child while she was grieving and falling apart. You constantly came in and out of her life as you pleased at your leisure.
11. She was not allowed to grieve or be sad. Everything had to be about you and your persona you like to maintain to the public. That was all that REALLY mattered/matters to you.
12.  You have ignored/pretended neither of these people exist to this day.
13. You have manipulated, gaslighted and put down the mother of your child for financial gain. You had no problem picking up the phone letting her know you were "starving" and "so poor". She was still grieving and trying everything possible to keep it together. You took advantage of her vunerability
 and generous nature.
14. Once you had a full belly you'd accuse the mother of your child of trying to buy your love. When in reality you were using her grief against her to your full advantage.
15. Hot and cold. You then took your manipulation up a notch and began to act like you legitimately cared/loved the mother of your child. Only to berate her if she tried to get close to you by something as simple as holding hands. No you wanted to only to have someone to use for money, sex and feed your ego.
17. You made sure to gaslight her by telling her that she was bad for your mental health! That you couldn't have her in your life because she was problematic but never could actually say how or in what way. I guess her giving birth to your child, asking you to be there for her birth, death and cremation is considered "problematic" for you.
18. Very recently you made sure she knew you could not pay the rent on your studio and your apartment. That you were having lots of money troubles. Again with the "Woe is me" campaign.
19. When asked if she could help in anyway (that is her nature and you know this very well) you made sure to shut her down by shifting the conversation to your new girlfriend. So you only contacted her to have her feel sorry for you but then explained how now you just couldn't be in touch because of your new relationship. Playing mind games to the fullest. 
20. Constantly flashing your "Barrio Dandy" lifestyle online without a care in the world. Upset anytime your daughter gets brought up to you because you have to face the reality that you not only ditched her but wanted absolutely nothing to do her in her life and or death. 


This is only a SHORT list of the use, abuse,pain and suffering you have caused a woman who did nothing but love, support and carry your child.  You pretend to care about fellow people of color especially women when in reality you are the biggest hypocrite ever. What you do is for you and only you. You do not care about women of color only when it benefits you in any capacity and you are getting your ego stroked. 
The woman of color you destroyed has sat in the shadows alone trying her hardest to get through this grief.

You did not care for the mother of your child and you did not care for your daughter. You've done nothing but continued to act like the victim when in reality you are the abuser. You may have fooled many people but some of us know the REAL you. You can continue living your life of deceit while the person you abused is still mourning the death of her daughter and silently suffering in deep grief. Maybe one day you can and will apologize not just to her but to the daughter you never wanted. Despite all of this the mother of your child is still out in the world trying to help others and make positive changes. 
She has difficulties with her day to day life but she still tries no matter how broken, used and hurt she feels. You still somehow think you've done nothing wrong because you have some sort of a following and continue to try to portrayed this picture of yourself as this nice, supportive person. You are trash and a sorry excuse for a man.  Please don't ever do this to another woman again. As for the mother of your daughter she continues rise. Viva La Mujer!